What Do Mothers Need?
This Sunday is Mother鈥檚 Day. Instead of flowers and chocolates, consider this...
We are at the beginning of the COVID-19 reopening marathon. Are we doing all we can to support and advocate for our mothers as they run this 鈥渞ace鈥? Can we help push away obstacles that are preventing our moms from crossing the finish line?
On this Mother鈥檚 Day, in the midst of the COVID-19 pandemic, the Colorado Women鈥檚 College is challenging us to find new ways to support our mothers and lean into the hard work of shifting home and workplace norms and behavior to make spaces where they can thrive. After all, . Nearly a quarter of families are
Things are tough for working women right now.听Women are who are risking their health, and even their lives, to support those who are able to stay at home. Personal protective equipment, when available, is designed for a male body and leaves . Infection means missed work,听 and often a听 missed paycheck.听 Essential workers are facing unimaginable trade-offs between food and housing and their personal health and the health of their families.
Women are also . In prior recessionary periods, it was men鈥檚 employment that was negatively affected. Today, women who work in sectors of our economy like leisure and hospitality are听hit the hardest with furloughs and layoffs.
Stay-at-home orders have brought the workplace into the home. According to a conducted by MIT researchers, in the first week of April nearly half the workforce that had been employed four weeks earlier听was working from home. And they were working for their job than they did before city and state-wide lockdowns.听 With听school and day-cares closed, many parents are struggling to do it all.
Despite the chaos of this moment, working from home has its supporters. A new by IBM found听that 54% of employees would prefer to work remotely after the pandemic subsides. point to Improved efficiency, more opportunities for collaboration and connection,听 higher company morale, and better life balance.听 Some companies have already indicated that they will be making .
But before we jump headfirst into this new reality, let鈥檚 take a closer look.听How are听working Moms doing?听The data emerging from this grand experiment of听working remotely suggest that without some radical thinking, we will reinforce and perhaps exacerbate structural inequities.
First, not all women are in a position to work from home. Second, women continue to shoulder a disproportionate share of the unpaid work at home even as we see an uptick in partners .听Homeschooling, the new pandemic parenting chore is also disproportionately women鈥檚 work, although father鈥檚 don鈥檛 necessarily see it that way.听Today鈥檚 reports that nearly half of men say they do most of the home schooling, 3 percent of women agree.
The struggle to do it all in this moment when traditional supports are absent is taking its toll on women. Women are experiencing greater amounts of stress than men as the COVID-19 pandemic marches on.听 A Kaiser Family Foundation conducted at the end of March found that the mental health of women has gotten worse since the pandemic for over half (57%) of mothers with children under the age of 18; 32% of fathers reported a similar decline in mental health - a 25% gender gap in stress that is growing larger over time.. Two听weeks earlier men and women were feeling relatively similar levels of stress.
Although the data have yet to be systematically collected, there is reason to believe that听motherhood penalties and fatherhood premiums may be making their way into the remote workspace.听 Stereotypes that women are less committed to work might become amplified in Zoom meetings when children pop in with an 鈥渦rgent鈥 request.听 Fathers, who have historically been seen as more committed to work when they have children might benefit when their children are on display. 听 Catalyst executive suggests that many women struggling with this new reality may be afraid to talk openly with supervisors for fear they will be perceived as not working or being productive enough.
There is much suffering right now and without a doubt, our first order of business is to听see that the basic needs of our working moms are being met.听 This includes promoting policies that improve access to food, safe housing, healthcare, including reproductive health, liveable wages, paid family and medical leave, paid sick days, and workplace safety.
Can we听also use听this moment of pandemic disruption to challenge the conventions of work and home that听are holding people back and imagine a more equitable world. Can we design our road to recovery from a working woman鈥檚 point of view?
What if workplace safety started from the perspective of the harm to a woman鈥檚 body?听 What changes in PPE would we make? , co-founder and director for the Division of Sex and Gender in Emergency Medicine at Brown University, argues that in our male-centric medical system we know little about how our treatment of COVID-19 affects women鈥檚 unique biology or why COVID-19 affects men and women differently.听 If we did, we might see better outcomes.
What if we thought about restructuring work around the rhythms of home and school? At the 2014 Denver Gender Equity , the mismatch between school schedules and work schedules (especially summer) was cited among the biggest challenges or concerns for women balancing family and work. Can we imagine a system that can better accommodate the needs of employers and parents? No one size will fit all workers, but any meaningful road to recovery must rethink how we organize our days and our work weeks.
What if we used this moment to hack the household to create more equity at home and work?
When men step up at home, they can create greater equity at work, according to new research published in the . For example, fathers who are equal partners at home may be more likely to use flexible work policies and normalize it for everyone.听 What if we opened the door for workers to have听difficult conversations with supervisors about the competing stresses of work and home with the goal of finding solutions that might work for everyone?
A more equitable future, requires nothing short of a sea change in how we think about the intersection of work and family.听 Let鈥檚 honor our mothers by taking one small step to create better opportunities for all. How will you support the mothers in your life to run their best race?